Demisexuality: What Does It Mean?

Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which a person only feels sexual attraction after forming a deep emotional connection with someone. Demisexual people may experience romantic attraction to people of any gender, but they will only feel sexual attraction to people they have a deep emotional connection with.

Demisexuality is often confused with asexuality, but there is a key difference between the two. Asexual people do not experience sexual attraction at all, while demisexual people only experience sexual attraction after forming a deep emotional connection with someone.

Demisexuality is a valid and important sexual orientation, and it is important to respect the identities of demisexual people. If you are unsure about what demisexuality is or how to support demisexual people, you can learn more about it online or talk to a trusted friend or family member.

Here are some additional things to keep in mind about demisexuality:

  • Demisexuality is not a choice. People are born demisexual, just like they are born gay, lesbian, bisexual, or heterosexual.
  • Demisexuality is not about being picky or having high standards. Demisexual people simply need to form a deep emotional connection with someone before they can feel sexual attraction to them.
  • Demisexuality is not a phase. Demisexual people have always existed, but they are only recently becoming more visible.
  • Demisexuality is not about fetishizing or objectifying people. Demisexual people are attracted to people, not emotional connections.

If you are demisexual, it is important to know that you are not alone. There are many other demisexual people out there, and you have a supportive community.